Walls

In dealing with affairs, one of the obstacles that has to be confronted and overcome is that of the walls. There are several walls that must be overcome in surviving affairs. The first wall is that of secrecy. The second is that of unforgiveness. Each wall carries with it challenges associated with overcoming it as an obstacle. Despite being overcome, they will eventually need to also be torn down over time.

There are two purposes for walls. Keeping things out and keeping things in. Besides operating as barriers, they also serve to keep things organized. Although the desire may exist to destroy the walls all at once, that is not always possible or advisable. The walls exists because they serve a purpose, when you know what the purpose is and can find ways to meet that purpose the walls can then be removed.

So to immediately tell all and forgive everything may sound good, but it does not provide the sound foundation needed in order to build a stronger relationship. The gradual disclosure of truth and forgiveness as things have proven safe is a healthier way to overcome such obstacles.

So be aware of the walls. Just because you see it and can overcome it does not mean that it is time for it to ‘come falling down’. When things are safe, then the wall can come down.

Best Regards for Recovery,

Jeff Murrah