When faced with the pain of an affair, it often seems that one is faced with a bottomless pit of pain. The hurt is deep and seems to go on in a never ending manner. The more one finds out about what happened, the more hurts there are. It seems like a nightmare that never ends. On top of that it is a lonely pain. It is a burden that you have to carry by yourself.
Although the pain seems endless, like other hurts, it will fade. The pit is not bottomless. When in pain, time seems to slow down and the hurt goes on forever. This bottomless, endless aspect is an illusion. It will fade, but in order to get out of that trap, one needs to have focus and stay active. Focus and activity are two of the tools that will the nightmare aspects the of pain away. Yes there will still be some pain, but the “bottomless pit experience’ will begin to fade.
This and other ways of reducing the pain and dealing with the situation are in my program on dealing with affairs. If you have had the heartbreak of an affair, it will help you move past the pain.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
