In the efforts to rationalize affairs, people often take a position that since no one was (physically) hurt by their actions, what is the problem? Just because you do not see broken bones and bruises does not mean that there was no hurt. The hurt of an affair, like that of foundational problems is not often seen with the eye, yet its effects are major. A cracked foundation often leads to other major problems. Since the foundation is key to the structural strength of a house, the marriage relationship and the trust of its foundation is the key to the strength of the family. Just because you do not see the hurt does not mean it is not there.
Affairs damage the trust of a relationship. It damages the spirit of ‘oneness’ that is key to maintaining the relationship. Affairs often involve lies, which further damages the trust beyond the damage of the affair itself. Both the affair and the subsequent cover-up damage the relationship. At the very basic level, the peace of mind that once existed in the relationship is destroyed. Once the peace of mind is gone, things are never quite the same between the couple. There is an uneasiness experienced when you are with your partner, until the issue is resolved.
The damage is there, even when it is not seen. For more information on how to survive and affair and what to avoid, purchase a copy of the e-book.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
