Time off is a good way to rethink about your life and make an honest assessment of where you are in life now. Given the busy lifestyle that you have, it might be a little difficult to take a time off. Yet, if an affair recently rocked your life, you have no choice but to give yourself a break. Why?
For one, you need to assess your emotions and take a look at what happened. You are hurt whether you admit it or not. Hurts and wounds need time to heal, whether physical or emotional. There is nothing wrong with that. If you are angry, let it out! If you want to cry, do so. You will need to be honest with yourself about what happened and what you are feeling. Do not try to escape the feelings by starting other relationships. Find out what is going on with you before creating another mess. Be honest with yourself, it is folly to appear unperturbed when you are bleeding inside. That would only cause the wound to cut deeper and alienate yourself from your own feelings.
When you do take a break, you might want to go on a vacation for a few days. Use these three days to think about how you can proceed with your life. It helps if you could write about your emotions and your plans for you not to forget them. This also gives you an opportunity to refine your plans as you talk with your spouse after your hiatus.
More importantly, you also need to think about your marriage and how you could rebuild it. This way, you can get over the affair and start reaffirming your love for each other.
