After finding out about your spouse’s affair, the possibility of vengeance or revenge is high. Although vengeance seems to be a good way to let off steam and get a few things off your chest, such actions are driven by passion and emotion rather than logic. In an effort to help you manage those feelings, this will be the first in a series on understanding and dealing with revenge.
Vengeance is often empowered by the thoughts of the hurt. The more you play it over in your head, the more power the vengeance will have. The hurt is its power source. If you want to overcome vengeance, you will have to cut off the power source. This means quit driving by the locations that you associate with the affair, to quit ruminating about what happened, to quit fantasizing about what you are going to do to _______________ (fill in the blank with whatever explicative you desire). Cutting yourself off from the hurt, will not automatically take it away, but it is a start. In subsequent posts, I will provide other interventions that you can do to reduce the vengeance.
Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
