Secrets provide the power and the spice to cheating. The keeping of secrets adds some excitement to the situation. Those same secrets are also part of the emotional chains and shackles that make it difficult to pull away from the affair. When you are taking steps to end an affair, it is important to be honest with yourself about what has occurred. Lying to oneself only makes it more difficult to deal with matters. The mind is a wonderful problem solving tool, yet when it is confused with the secrets associated with affairs, it can manufacture and excuse many unsavory behaviors. Rather than believe your own excuses, it is essential to tell yourself the truth.
Tell youself the truth about your cheating and infidelity. Rather than excuse it by saying “I’m only human”, or “I am just a man/woman” or “I couldn’t help it”- honestly admit what you did.
Just as believing the lies did not happen overnight, escaping the lies will take time as well. Start by telling yourself the truth about what you did and then be honest with yourself on a daily basis. Over time, you ability to think clearly will return, but it begins with honesty.
Regards,
Jeff Murrah
