With affairs, as with other human relationship issues there is a tendency for things to complicate quickly. With how quickly them complicate, there is a need for direction or focus. One of the ways to maintain focus I learned from sailors. In order to maintain their course, they have a clear and defined idea where they are going. They plot a course. During their journey, they take readings and readjust their vessel to account for storms, waves, etc. and return to the original course.
Navigating through human relationships can be stormy. By using the example of the sailor, we need to stay on course. If your destination is reconciliation, then do not get caught up in paybacks and punishment. If you just want peace of mind, you may have to give up control and other issues that take away that peace of mind. Focus on what is your final destination rather than allowing yourself to become distracted by the rocking of the boat.
Focus is an important tool, when you use it. In making through an affair, it is essential to maintain focus.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
