Years ago, the prophet Moses stated “Be sure your sins will find you out”. I was reminded of this over the Thanksgiving holidays. During this time, I reviewed photo albums. I was surprised at how revealing that photos were. Family conflicts and crises can not be hidden. Photos capture our non-verbal gestures which often give away underlying issues. With an uncanny accuracy, marriages that were in danger could clearly be identified by the non-verbal gestures captures on film.
Although people often attempt to dismiss the non-verbal gestures, tics and slips, they often reveal a reality of unment needs and desires. It is as if they reveal a hidden language. In some of the family get-togethers over the holiday, I saw many warning signs of problems. I often wonder, “Can’t they see this?” “It is so obvious!”. The reality is many people do not see the signals or either do not want to see them. This is especially true with infidelity or cheating. The signals are there, yet couples (and family members) often ignore, dismiss or joke about the signals rather than deal with them. Although the details of events may be a well-kept secret, the prescence of the affair is not.
Cues that involve eye contact, hand gestures, jokes, behavior sequences, and distance are some of the signals that provide clues as to what is going on in their psychic world. The cheater may act like everything is normal, yet the body reveals the truth of their existence.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
