Have you ever thought something was silly or stupid only to change your mind after trying it out? That happened to me when I encountered HD lenses.
I thought the whole HD lens was hype and just another way to sell sunglasses. I believed it up until I actually tried some. I could not believe the difference it made.
The colors were more vibrant, and I could see much further than before. On putting them on, the clarity and crispness surprised me. I had to take them off and put them on again to make sure of the experience.
The sunglasses really did make a difference in how I viewed things. The experience changed my judgment about HD sunglasses.
The lens you use in looking at the world changes what you notice. Items that were overlooked or ignored before now stand out.
in a similar way, when you view the affair through the lens of a trauma survivor, you’ll see things differently than others do.
It may have been a childhood trauma or abandonment episode. When it comes to trauma, there is no expiration date. If it happened to you, it changes how you look at the world.
The problem is that many people never get help to deal with their trauma. It festers and grows, impacting every area of their lives.
If you are a trauma survivor, it’s important to understand that your experience has changed how you see the world. You may see things that others don’t or be more sensitive to certain triggers others are oblivious to.
The lens of trauma also distorts what actually happened and what you see. What happened to you before is effecting how you view the affair today.
Your spouse may think you’re being unreasonable or not being adult about the situation. The truth is, you’re being very reasonable given what you’ve been through. When they don’t understand what you’ve been through, they won’t get how you’re dealing with it.
Although the trauma happened years ago, it’s still exerting its influence on you, your emotions and your thinking. If you’ve never discussed this with your spouse, now is a great time.
In the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma“, I share with you ways of getting past the scars of that trauma. It will also help you put into words the challenges you’ve faced. This is a way of opening up conversations about trauma and the impact of its effects on your marriage.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
