One of the problems with cheaters is that they are focusing on the wrong things in their lives. The word focus actually goes back to a Latin word referring to the hearth. In early homes, the focus of the homes was the hearth. In a similar manner, the focus of family life was the hearth as well. The focus of your life was to be your family.
In today’s modern society, focus has been distorted. Focus has been severed from its original purpose. Like many other talents, when you take them out of context, they become destructive. Today motivational speakers train people in how to sharpen their focus and find ways of improving their focus. Typically when you have good focus it is beneficial, but when you are focused on the wrong things, the extra sharpness or improvement are dangerous.
Although having a clear focus is typically a good thing, in the mind of the cheater, they no longer focus on the family and hearth. Their focus is often on themselves. They focus in on their lover (or their lover focuses on them). Once the target is in focus and they are ‘locked on’, all their decisions and emotions are trained on attaining the object of their affection. When home is not the focus, you loose. Although you may have had your focus in the right place, when hit with an affair, your focus may have changed to your own pain.
To turn this around, you will need to re-orient. You will need to adjust your ability to focus and the the object of the cheater’s focus. Once the focus is back on the family and hearth, it will be a short time before their heart is back there as well. Our heart soon follows what we focus on.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
