The fast fix gets you out of the pain and gets you quick answers, but it doesn’t resolve the problem. Relationships don’t work on a fast-fix platform. Relationships are more complicated than that.
For many, the culture of fast fix is a huge obstacle in recovering from an affair. This mindset leads you to want answers and reduce pain as quickly as possible rather than taking your time “working through” things right with your partner.
Working through requires effort. At this point, you discover how willing you and your spouse are to work on your relationship. They require maintenance and attention.
This means the two of you will have to discuss the affair and other uncomfortable topics more than once or twice. Working through includes staying with the issue until it’s settled or resolved.
The problem with quick-fix solutions is that they focus on symptoms without ever resolving all of the underlying issues which created them in the first place. They may get you out of pain but do little in terms of improving your relationship.
One issue arising when surrounded by this cultural phenomenon called “fast fix“—the eagerness for speedy results no matter what it takes–is how one’s thinking changes along with their expectations and emotional state; instead opting for quick fixes (such as beating yourself up or trying anything but working through problems together) simply because you’ve become accustomed to looking it up on google or asking Siri or Alexa for answers.
If you don’t take the time to work through all of your feelings and issues with an affair, it can have a lasting effect on both parties. Rather than even getting clear with yourself on your own feelings, you instead take off looking for answers or revenge.
Working through any issue takes patience and understanding from both sides. This is not something that will be solved by simply flipping a switch!
You’ll be glad you took the time to work through all your issues, rather than just giving up and taking an easy answer. You already know what it’s like to have a once-upon happy life turn into one big pile of misery in no time flat because someone cheated on you – why not take action now?
The action that will help is going through the Affair Recovery Workshop with each other. It’s designed with a unique sequence that takes you to the root of each issue rather than the fast fix answers.
The fast fix hasn’t helped your situation. When you think about it, the affair itself was a fast fix to other issues. Isn’t it time you worked through the issues rather than looking for fast closure?
Click and download your copy of the Affair Recovery Workshop today. It will guide you and your spouse through meaningful solutions rather than fast fixes.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
