Human nature constantly amazes, especially concerning affairs. I was amazed today when my wife and I were discussing why someone would visit the website for help concerning an affair. I told her that there was no one simple answer. People have many reasons for wanting help to deal with an affair. Some of them include:
1) I am afraid they will leave me and I don’t make enough money to make it on my own.
2) I really love my spouse and want to work things out.
3) I want to heal my marriage for the sake of the kids.
4) Divorce goes against my moral values.
5) I don’t want my spouse to leave me for someone else.
6) It’s the right thing to do.
7) I am tired of divorce, so I will work this one out.
8) I am confused and want to make sense out of things.
These are some of the basic reasons. Of course all of them take place after an affair occurs. Very few people are interested in knowing what it takes to prevent an affair, at least until one occurs. Preventative material does not generate the traffic. Most people want to find ways to deal with the anger, abandonment, high drama, etc. afterwords rather than pick up on the early warnings and prevent it. Like an emergency room, the public wants a triage (a quick repair or fixing up) in order to get back on their way with their marriage. Making changes that last will take longer and require a major relationship overhaul. Many people are not willing to obtain a major overhaul and instead look for quick fixes to get them on the road, thinking that they will repair things at a later date. When you are dealing with affairs, the whole basis and foundation of your relationship is in question. It needs an overhaul now, rather than later.
Regards,
Jeff Murrah
