Stalkers, like other control game freaks, often want more and more control. In some cases that stalker gains enough power over the victim to where there’s a blackmail situation.
The fear of the secrets getting out is so great that you are put into compromising situations. Secrets go hand in hand with affairs. The more powerful the secret, the more exciting the affair.
Stalkers use control as their way of managing the relationship. The opposite of love is control, and they use it extensively.
When you are held in a relationship by fear and excitement, it’s not based on love, but control.
The relationship with a stalker is one sided. They’re in control and you or your spouse are the victim.
When a stalker has control, they’ve managed leveraging the power of the secret and use that power in exploiting their target. In some cases, the information may be a threat of exposing the affair.
In other cases, the victim is exploited into having an affair with the stalker. Either way, the effects are devastating.
One of the dangers of blackmail is that it seldom ever ends. The secret continues being used to leverage more.
More sex, more money, more secrets, the cycle never ends. Those people with more money, popularity, etc are more vulnerable to stalkers who want to leverage what they’ve learned.
Whatever their motives, they use fear as a powerful motivation in controlling their target.
I’ve also seen this used with persons caught up in the sex trade and swingers lifestyle who wish to leave, yet are trapped by threats of being exposed or used against them in divorce courts.
It’s not beyond stalkers and blackmailers to set up traps for their victims. They often operate on a hunting-type mentality that seeks to ensnare and exploit their prey.
They’re not interested in loving them, only in using them. If you are in one of these situations, it is important that you come up with an escape plan and do it quickly.
These situations don’t improve over time, they only worsen and the stakes grown greater.
After leaving the situation, you’ll need help overcoming the trauma that comes with such a relationship. In the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma“, you’ll learn skills that help you through this.
Best Regards,
Jeff
