At the AffairRecoveryGroup, our latest webinar focused on dealing with the many emotions you have when dealing with an affair. One of the interesting items was telling the difference between anger and revenge. When you are cheated on, anger is one of the feelings that you may find yourself faced with. That is natural given that you have been lied to, betrayed, lost your spouse and now are unsure of what your place is in the marriage and the world.
In such a state, anger is a natural reaction. So, how can you tell when the anger turns into revenge? Since legitimate anger focuses on dealing with self-preservation and responding to threats, it will be there. Once the threat or perceived threat is over, legitimate anger decreases and fades. Revenge on the other hand wants to hurt back. It does not rest until you have planned or done something to hurt someone else. Revenge seeks retaliation, whereas anger seeks preservation.
This is just one of the many tidbits available to you at the Affair Recovery Group.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
