You may wonder why the cheater can’t just walk away from their lover. One of the reasons they can’t just walk away (or turn it off, or ignore them) is chemical bonding. When the cheater has an affair, it is not just a physical act. If it were purely physical, it would be easier to walk away. In the course of an affair, the cheater first bonds with the lover in their mind. It is not just a matter of fantasizing, it is more than that. Mentally, they are rewired by the lover. Their whole brain is changed by the experience. if you wonder why they do not seem the same, it is because they are not. Their mental wiring has been altered. They may return to themselves for the most part, but you know as well as they do, that they have been changed.
The change is not only in their brain. When sex is involved, there is a chemical bonding in the body as well. As science understands more about bodily fluids, they are discovering that such compounds are not just something that is wiped off, they have an impact. Those fluids contribute to bonding on a molecular level. The lover has chemically changed your spouse in their thinking and in the bodily attachment. Those chemical attachments are the reason why they can’t just turn off feelings and walk away from the lover. The same chemical bonding that holds you and your spouse is also at work in the relationship between the cheater and the lover. The temple prostitutes of ancient Rome and Greece knew these things, which is why they were effective. The patrons were chemically attached to them, and they brought in more worshipers.
You can break the attachment bonds. It just helps to know what you are up against.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
