Although popular culture often makes things like menage a trois (threesome) look fun and exciting, they have a dark side. It is true that they are stimulating and exciting, yet you will find that they often stir up more than you bargained for. The passions stirred up are intense, in terms of the excitement and in terms of the jealousies. The feelings aroused in each of the parties do not go away when the evening is over.
It is said that “Someone always gets hurt with a menage a trois”. My experience is that everyone gets hurt. Everyone involved suffers from what happens. The marriage is weakened, the bod between husband and wife is corrupted and the seeds of infidelity have found fertile ground. Once the menage a trois happens, it cannot be undone. This is something that you may have seen at the movies which definitely needs the warning ‘DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME’. I find it ironic that such warnings are often emblazoned on the daredevil stunts that kids often try which are potentially physically harmful, but are not found on behaviors that are destructive to the soul and harmful to the marriage.
To put it bluntly, menage a trois is an affair. It is cheating. Even if you are just imagining someone else in bed with you. Do not bring another party to the bedroom, be they real or imagined. Although some of you may think, “Why is he addressing this topic? I have never had a threesome”. Think through this one. Have you fantasized about someone else in the bed with you. Is your mind and heart with someone else rather than your spouse? You may have started the destructive dynamics of a menage a trois unknowingly.
When you are with your spouse, be with your spouse and your spouse only.
If you have gone through the pain of the menage a trois, you can start undoing it by reconfirming your commitment to your spouse. Remove any strangers from your life, your heart and your mind. Learn how to be focused and committed to your spouse alone.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
2 Responses
Ho boy someone is selfrighteous.Problem A) Comparing fantasies you might share with your loved one is not the same as the real thing.I mean, if i was asked to rough her dressed as a police officer, that means she should be scared of police officers from now?And Problem A) if after a threesome, you have feelings for someone else,then you have an issuewith your relationship that you don’t simply take your mind of it just like that and its not sex the heart of it..
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Invite a coworker or a BEST friend?the idiocy of doing that really deserves the breakage of a marriage
Vag,
Thank you for contributing. Those who are bent on having a menage a trois do not always think things through.