There are times I think that the hardest substance on earth is the cheaters heart. They are so bound and determined to seek their happiness, that they damage everyone around them. In seeking their fulfillment, they often view themselves as ‘good people’ with ‘good intentions’. I you dare to question them or call them a ‘home wrecker’, they often fly into a rage. These cheaters often have two legacies. There is the legacy that they imagine and the one that actually exist. This is one of the reasons that I cringe when hearing the phrase “I just want to be happy” or the enablers who feed into their charade with “I just want you to be happy”. Wanting a cheater to be happy is asking for trouble. For with the track record they have, when they are happy, someone else, usually an innocent party is going to be made miserable. You need to be careful before telling people that you just want them to be happy. Consider, instead, I want you to be responsible, or I want you to be the man or the woman you were meant to be.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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YUP!!
That and the idea that the feeling of ‘love’ is any kind of qualification to measure character by!
Character and heart condition [faith tested through faithfulness over time ] are primary and foundational to a good ‘prospect ‘ for making any plans for marriage …which is FOR LIFE!
Just sayin’
Happiness is part of life but mostly our purpose is to life unto the Lord and uphold a higher standard than a faternity party! ………….MUCH higher!
Respect also is not cowtowing because he is the ‘head’ …and usually using the ‘wrong one’ [awk …I SAID that here ???]
Respect is holding a spouse to the high standard you suspect they seem to THINK they are upholding …but when they start to slide …we are to kindly give the proper reflection of their slip sliding away into deception which hurts the whole family
A man who learns to love work and love the Lord …thus obeying the Lord’s command to love his wife …will be fulfilled and TOO BUSY to run around ..and fearing the Lord will darn well learn to ENJOY his wife…until he REALLY DOES! heeehee…funny maybe but really the way I read Genesis.!
Going through ‘thick and thin’ is how my husband described the adultery relationship with his OW of 14 years! …..He has NO IDEA what ‘thick and thin ‘ is ! How INSULTING
Whatever ‘sorrows’ they have they brought upon themselves…but worse is how self centered people are in adultery moreso.
The tons of fall out on innocent bystanders maybe amusing in the hollywood rags…but it is deeply painful to all of those who are effected by these two people’s clueless and crafty conniving
“What goes on behind closed doors between two consenting adults ” HURTS A HELL OF A LOT OF PEOPLE!
Reading through many various forums I was at first astonished to note the number of members…this plague is raging out of control …simply because people do not care to learn self governing .
I HATE the excuse that I was being ‘protected’ …as the ‘reason ‘ for lying and manipulating all of our reality for so MANY MANY years
It has begun again as he is ‘loving ‘ the children of adultery …sooner or later that is going to backfire
He is making them ‘happy’ but that is the wrong lesson from one who SHOULD have learned by NOW that the grasping for a life of happiness brings forth ‘wind’ ….
Isa 26:17 Like as a woman with child, [that] draweth near the time of her delivery, is in pain, [and] crieth out in her pangs; so have we been in thy sight, O LORD.
Isa 26:18 We have been with child, we have been in pain, we have as it were brought forth wind; we have not wrought any deliverance in the earth; neither have the inhabitants of the world fallen.
Zaza,
I agree, the ‘protected’ excuse is a lame one.