Many of you may not want to think that there are evil people in the world. You may not want to think that there are wicked people in the world either. The wicked seek to exploit others for their own enjoyment. They often do not view what they are doing as wrong, even when it involves seducing your spouse. Although musicals such as “Wicked” has toned down the public perception of the term, the reality is that the wicked are a real danger to your marriage and family. Understanding the ways of such persons will help you in dealing with them.
One of the traits of those caught up in wicked ways consists of twisting words. The wicked have a tendency to turn the meaning of words around into something that you never imagined. The twisting of words involves using double meanings or sexualing what is said. They are often so adept, they can turn what on the surface is an innocent conversation, into one filled with suggestions, innuendos and double entendres. With the kind of twisting they do, it often leaves you wondering what you really said, and are confused as to the meaning behind what you said. With the wicked, this is intentional. They thrive on the confusion. They intentionally obfuscate matters in order to manipulate.
Not only are they experts in twisting words, if you or your spouse attempt using words to avoid discussing matters with them, they will often leave you feeling like a pretzel and turned around 180 degrees from what you intended.
What this means is that you need to be clear with what you say in dealing with them. Since they manage twisting things, they will likely distort what you are saying anyway. You can not make them listen to what you say in the way that you said it. It is not their nature to accept anything at face value. No matter how much talking you do, they will find a way to twist. If you have to deal with them, say what you need to and leave it at that. Once they have you confused and twisted, you are vulnerable to other ploys they may use. It is not a matter that you are a poor communicator, when wicked ways are used on you, they will put a spin on anything you say.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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Awesome! Not only does this occur in various social situations but it is very prominent in usage by those who are engaging in drawing the unlearned to believe in false doctrines ‘couched’ in biblical references….The wicked are those who have been ‘taught’ to use deceit by the DECEIVER who seeks to capture the unlearned or ‘beginning ‘ followers of Jesus who trust them …do not realize the huge numbers who are using the name of Jesus Christ for gain .
Indeed …many who are deceived are led because they do not know what they do not know and they trust the surface appearance or sound of something …thus GOD warns us to read and allow His word to set the standard for truth.
Also in marriage many underestimate their vulnerabilities to deceit and scoff at the need to protect their marriage….led by way of flattery …lured to lose their affection for their spouse …because they fail to protect their view of their spouse as special and unique….
Comparison kills their attraction to their spouse and as other become more in their sight …due to time …aka ..office hours bringing many in contact and in relationship to those they work with than the spouse ..soon affections become attractions …and the downward momentum is unrestrained by a knowledge of how the affections are stolen
Those unwilling to be told or warned seem to desire to have excuse for their behavior …
This was the case in my own marriage…sad …but once they find someone else or many other ‘options ‘ the spouse has little power to bring back their attention ….it has to be the desire of the spouse to keep themselves focused upon the ‘good thing’ their spouse is….failing that they are vulnerable to all kinds of deceptions.
Zaza,
Deception is destructive in many ways. I often wonder what does more damage, deception or lies? The deception is especially destructive when it is based on the twisting of Scripture. One that I have often heard is that when the Bible talks about being the husband of one wife, they take to mean ‘one wife at a time’ or that divorce does not count if you divorce an unbeliever. Such teachings have weakened families and the church.
Comparison is dangerous as you know. Although having a relationship outside of marriage is intensely exciting for cheaters, it is intensely destructive as well. Making comparison is often where problems start. The cheater compares, then wants more and uses that to justify their affair. After feeling like they are missing out, they view the affair as a solution to their problem. They do not realize that the dissatisfaction is an internal rather than an external problem.