The beauty of evil

Few cheaters ever fully grasp the hideousness and twisted face of evil when it comes to affairs. They are often seduced by the excitement, the stimulation, the illusions and the beauty that often surround the affair and their lover.

Although you may see through the illusions and see the potential evil, the cheater rarely does. I know that as a counselor, evil is hard to understand. It is even harder to wake cheaters up to the reality of the evil that they are involved in.

They don’t see the destruction that’s underway with the affair. They only see the fun and excitement of the affair. They do not see the devastation it will bring to their family, to the lives of their children, to their reputation and possibly to their own health.

They’re enticed by the promise of ‘good times, good sex, and the promise of the new’. The affair never delivers on those promises.

The effects of the affair also last much longer than they thought it would. The damage continues LONG after the end of the marriage or the end of the affair. The affair also has ways of touching children, grand-children and parents.

The cheater often lives in fantasies of a functional Brady Bunch blended-family that have happy faces and share in adventures, when the reality is that they are more akin to the Hatfield-McCoy feud that lasts generations and destroys everyone in its path.

Hopes for the future are smashed, the picture of love that could have been has been twisted, perverted and bent beyond repair. The family bonds are ruptured and resentments are birthed that lead to more hurt.

I know this may sound harsh to you, but it is the reality of what an affair brings. The affair begins with deception. Deceptions about who each of the parties are, the nature of their relationship and the truth about what it will bring. They are caught up in the ‘beauty of evil’.

If evil was actually recognized for its true nature, affairs would be viewed as repulsive and something to be avoided at all costs. Hollywood, men’s magazines and romance novels deal in fantasies, and they manufacture them in order to hide the true nature of evil.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah