When you talk about infidelity and murder, things suddenly become murky. When researching the topic, in terms of finding actual numbers, I found myself frustrated.
Not only are actual numbers difficult to obtain, I became aware of complicating factors underlying murder investigations.
Not every murder investigation chases down whether or not there were affairs. They don’t have time to find that data. They want to close the case and move on.
When cheaters hide all aspects of the affair, it’s hard finding the evidence. Murder investigators want to close the case, not explore all the sexual adventures of the victim. They’ll chase down what they need in order to close the case.
With that in mind, the number of cases where someone is murdered by their spouse is higher when affairs are going on than when no affair is going on. The dynamics of whether the killer is more likely to be the husband or the wife changes with race.
Sorting through murder statistics is an unpleasant business. When you have to sort through the dynamics of gender and race, it becomes murky fast.
Rather than try explaining the numbers, it’s safe saying that the risk of murder is higher when an affair is going on than when it is not going on. Anytime you have an affair, you’re taking your life into your own hands.
Your spouse which you may have considered cold and without passion may suddenly discover a new form of passion that you never thought they possessed.
Husbands do kill their wives and wives kill their husbands. Lovers have been known to kill cheaters or the spouses of cheaters.
Affairs unleash passions that aren’t amenable to control or rational discussions. Affairs by their very nature are stir up deep and intense feelings.
The movies only show the excitement and fun. They don’t show the true picture of rage and revenge unleashed with affairs. There’s a connection between murder and infidelity.
The strength of that connection is debatable. The actual numbers are murky. What is clear is that you are ‘at risk’ when you have an affair.
Rather than take your chances at facing all the passionate rage, consider healing. The affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage.
Download the “Affair Recovery Workshop“. In the videos, you’ll find the tools and guidance needed in turning your marriage around. From improving communication to enhancing intimacy.
Best Regards,
Jeff
