There are times you may feel ‘the world is against me,’ and you would be correct when it comes to affairs. Pop culture celebrates affairs and the dis-integration of the family with affair propaganda.
It bothers them that you would stand for your marriage. When you stand for marriage, it convicts them of their actions. The affair propaganda is extensive and invasive.
You may feel like you are lost and tossed in the ocean. So how can you resist the affair propaganda?
Handing Affair Propaganda <<– listen to the audio here
Hi, this is Jeff Murrah with Affair Recovery Radio, welcoming you to another podcast in our series. Here at Affair Recovery Radio our goal is to help you through the affair recovery one step at a time. In today’s session, to help you along the way, is “Handling affair propaganda”.
The World IS against you.
When you find out that your spouse has had an affair there are times that you may feel like the world is against me. And you’ve be correct, when it comes to affairs.
In today’s culture around the world, at least in many places, it’s almost like it’s popular to support affairs and to be okay with affairs. And if you’re bothered by them you oftentimes feel like you are in the minority.
Popular culture celebrates affairs, along with the disintegration of the family.
Many times you’re going to find yourself surrounded by what I call ‘affair propaganda’. One of the reasons why this affair propaganda is so popular is that bothers many people in pop culture that you would dare to stand for your marriage.
When you take a stand for your marriage and wanting to try to fix things or improve things, it convicts the people in popular culture of their own actions. It makes them feel guilty about their own situations.
For that reason they want you to join their party and be totally okay with affairs, because to stand against the affair brings conviction for them.
The affair propaganda is extensive and invasive and it comes at you 24/7. Wham, wham, wham. It hits you all the time.
As you deal with this there are times that you’re going to find yourself feeling lost and almost like you’re being tossed in an ocean with these huge waves just throwing you all over the place. Your senses are not deceiving you. You are being hit with the affair propaganda.
All this begs the question, “How can you resist this affair propaganda?” Well, the solution’s going to be to recognize, reject, and regroup. Let me go over that one more time.
Recognize, reject, and regroup.
Recognize, Reject and Regroup
1.Under the recognize, you’re going to have to recognize the propaganda when you see it. All around you these messages are going to be sent to you, be it in the movies, in music, in magazines, articles that you read.
Part of this propaganda consists of lies. Lies like you can have an affair without consequences. Or you deserve an affair. Or affairs are fun, cool, hip, that variety is good, that marriage is bad.
Any time that you hear these things you’re going to have to recognize it.
Because so many times we are just living our day to day lives, not thinking about it, and we get bombarded with these messages and don’t even realize it. When we are not paying attention that stuff sinks in to our thinking. It probably sunk into your spouse’s thinking. And they fell victim to it.
When you see it, recognize it for what it is. It’s propaganda.
2. After recognizing it you’re going to have to have reject it. Essentially neutralize it and counter it. When you hear the poison of this propaganda you’re going to have to reject it.
Much like when you happen to accidentally swallow some poison. What’s the first thing you do?
You cough it up, you spit it out. Same type of thing you’re going to need to reject this. Not only physically, but in your own mind.
If you’re in a situation where you can’t consciously reject it, you may have to reject it unconsciously. Or just do it in your own mind quietly.
But these things are going to have to be rejected. When you see it in the movies it helps if you say out loud that’s a lie, that’s propaganda, that’s not true, to start training your mind to reject it and not let that stuff sink in.
Because when these messages, this propaganda, hits you and you do not have an answer or you don’t reject it, it tends to get in to your heart and mind. And once it gets into your heart and mind, it festers. This is why you’re going to need to reject it.
If you can take it a step further and not just reject it but counter it with a truth, that’s not true, such and such is true, that would be even better. If I was your teacher I’d give you a gold star for that, put a check plus by your name.
You want to reject the message. If you can, reject it and counter it with a truthful statement. That would be even better.
For instance, when you hear the lie you deserve an affair, that’s propaganda. No one deserves the pain of an affair. Affairs hurt everyone. Stuff like that would counter it.
3. Cultivate friendships with like-minded people. This is what I mean by regroup. It’s that whole idea of developing a support group.
When you are hit with all this affair propaganda they want you to feel isolated and alone. When you’re isolated and alone you’re more vulnerable and you’re more likely to start believing the propaganda.
When you have a group and you’re resisting it, there’s strength in that. Not only is your strength in it, you can draw on the strength of the group and the encouragement that you give each other.
The lessons that you learn from each other can be very invaluable as you are dealing with this affair propaganda.
You’ve got enough on your plate just dealing with the affair, without having to be bombarded with the propaganda. Which only makes the situation worse.
For that reason you need to know how to handle this affair propaganda. As the saying goes, “Ye shall know the truth and the truth will set you free.”
When your marriage has been damaged by an affair, there’s hope. An affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage. The downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop” guides you through the journey of affair recovery.
You can know what to do, what to say, issues to avoid along with ways of improving your intimacy. You can not only recover from the affair, you can improve your marriage as well.
Best Regards,
Jeff
