What’s your gut telling you? There’s been more articles and awareness of gut sensations lately. Some have spoken positively about gut reactions, and some speak negatively about them.
When you hear stories from both sides of the issue, who or what are you to believe?
From reading the popular articles, the first thing that becomes apparent to me is that many of the pop writers are confusing their heart with their gut.
It’s true that many criminals play on your emotions and guilt. They know ways of exploiting those sensations to their benefit. So the articles about the danger of going with your gut has validity when talking about exploiting your heart (emotions).
When I talk about gut reactions, I am referring to sensations in your lower intestines. They’re telling you something.
Since it takes experience in gaining awareness of those sensations, most people prefer going with what their heart tells them, and just label it a ‘gut reaction’. They may call it gut, when there was no intestinal sensation at all.
Then there’s the matter of conscience/morality/leading of the Holy Spirit. They serve as a moral compass.
When that part of you tells you that something is wrong, it automatically trumps gut and emotion, if your gut is not in contradiction with this moral compass.
One German researcher, Gerd Gigerenzer views the gut sensations as a pathway to unconscious awareness of things. His findings are that those sensations are reliable and dependable.
The moral compass makes you aware of limits on your actions and thoughts. Ignoring its leading is always ‘at your own risk’ .
This compass helps keep people from taking advantage of your emotional vulnerabilities, if you have not turned it off or turned down its volume so much that you can not hear it.
When it comes to either avoiding or dealing with affairs, you will need your moral compass intact and a full awareness of your gut reactions. Having either of them dulled by drugs, alcohol or just plain ignoring can put you in situations where you will either come across as being self-righteous, over-reactive, or emotional.
Jumping into action without both being intact has led many people into messes. With all the confusion and mixed message related to affairs, it often takes time to sort things out and tune in to these areas.
When you are dealing with an affair, you need all the help you can find. The downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop” guides you through the confusion and game playing. Knowing what to do and what to bring up makes healing time faster.
Best Regards,
Jeff
