You may wonder what do ‘investments’ and ‘affairs’ have in common. These two topics not only have a relationship, the nature of that relationship is a troubling one.
When you are in the ‘investment’ mindset, you look at the world around you as a series of assets. Assets are bought and sold in a way that earns you profit.
One of the dangers of the investment mindset occurs when you begin viewing your own home as an ‘investment’. You start viewing all your purchases as ‘investments’.
Financially, it may sound good to consider your home in terms of its potential financial benefits. What happens is that when you view your home as just another one of your assets, its loses its special status.
When your home is no longer a special place where you raise your family, but instead it is just another one of your investments that you hope to make a profit off of, you’re in trouble. It is at that point, that your home loses a special place in your heart and head.
As long as you are making money and nobody interrupts you, it’s likely that you don’t see the danger taking place. Slowly, not only your home, but your family become commodities to buy and sell.
Like a spreading cancer, the investment mindset starts spreading to your family. You start evaluating them in terms of what they cost you rather than how much they love you, or you love them.
Decisions impacting the family become based on financial profitability or even minimized loses rather than what is good for the family or makes them more secure or makes them happy.
Sure, you have to be responsible, yet when money is the first thing you consider ahead of all other variables, you could be sliding deeper into the investment mindset.
When the investment mindset finally infects your marriage, wives and husbands become nothing more than commodities. They are gained or lost as you keep score by how much money you have in the bank.
At this point the rightness or wrongness of an affair is based on what it will cost you. It is no longer whether adultery is moral.
The affair becomes a decision based on whether or not you can ‘afford’ the relationship. Being in that mindset did not start with you viewing your spouse as chattel. It began with you viewing your home and everything that surrounds you as ‘investments’.
What you have in your heart and how you think does impact your family relationships. If you have found your home and marriage infected with the investment mindset, you need to return as fast as you can to ‘family values’.
This means viewing your home as a place of safety and love rather than what will give you the best return on your money.
You also need some work on turning your marriage relationship around. The “30 Days to a Better Marriage” program gives you ways of transforming your marriage. You can move from what’s ‘acceptable’ to your marriage being great.
Best Regards,
Jeff
