Lessons about Affairs from the ‘Red Light’ District of Amsterdam, Part I

I recently returned from visiting Amsterdam from which I gleaned many lessons. I’m always on the lookout for whatever I can learn about adultery and help others through it.

During my visit, I walked through the ‘Red Light District’ of the city. Since prostitution is legal there, many sexually oriented businesses are openly advertising and operating in the open in contrast to other parts of the world, where such things are hidden and kept secret.

There were many lessons learned from my experience. The first of which is that on the main thoroughfares, they place all the young and attractive women. The older, plumper or less attractive ones are located on the side streets and back streets.

Along those dark alleys are the women willing to do ‘anything’ for a customer. This is where you find the S&M and fetish fans. In their desperation for customers, there are no limits to what acts they are willing to do.

This reminded me of how affairs are often portrayed as ‘hip’, filled with attractive people, and ‘fun’. The first appearances are often deceiving.

They are designed to ‘hook’ you into the lifestyle. They young and attractive women are intentionally eye catching. One of the first things they do is to steal your attention away from your own spouse and own family.

The women know that getting your attention is the first thing that they need to do.

Once they have the attention of their audience, the next phase is to incite arousal. When the passions are aroused enough, the audience takes the next step which is ‘action’.

In a similar fashion, lovers grab the attention of the cheater, then arouse them, then wait for them to ‘take action’.

The less attractive women have to work harder to gain attention. They often have to be more aggressive in attracting potential cheaters and customers.

What that means is that the less attractive lovers are a greater threat to your marriage in that they are using more aggressive ways of stealing the cheaters affections. By necessity, they have to rely on something other than attractiveness.

In order to the less attractive to lure cheaters, they rely on trickery, traps and stimulation. They are more willing to go to extremes.

There’s also the lesson that affairs may look attractive at first, but in the end, they are full of ugliness and remorse, which is often hidden in the back alleyways of the lives of those who experienced it.

Affairs also have their share of traps and pitfalls. They have hidden dangers designed to keep the cheater from leaving the relationship.

If you or your spouse is caught in an affair trap, the time to leave is now. The traps have more danger the longer you stay in them. The video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery” gives you the basic information you need for ending the affair.

Rather than remain trapped or being a victim, you can take action. Click the link, fill out the form and within minutes, you’ll be taking the first steps of getting out of the trap you’re in.

Best Regards,

Jeff