With the recent disclosure of Governor Mark Sanford of South Carolina having an affair, the media is looking at the topic again. Although some commentators view his situation as a possible “honey pot” situation where he was set up, the reality remains…he had an affair. He knew that his actions were wrong, otherwise he would not have been unavailable for a period of time. It is true that some affairs are set-ups or even police stings. Although such explanations may ease the pain, the reality remains…they either had or were willing to have an affair. Trying to justify one’s actions based on whether or not it is in the public eye only makes the poison go down smoother. The affair still does its damage. Those involved were being selfish SOB/bitches who were only thinking about themselves and not the consequences of their actions. They were thinking in terms of getting their rocks off, rather than what it would bring. Affairs always have consequences. The short-term immediate gratification mindset does not have room to consider the impact of their acts on parents, children, friends, reputation, or business. It is selfish self-gratification. Excuses like I was lonely, I was desperate, I could not resist, I wasn’t thinking, etc. are only attempts to make what happened palatable. No matter how palatable they make it, when the spouse and family members find out, they will still feel sick to their stomachs and want to throw up.
Does an affair make me a selfish SOB/bitch? YES with no reservations. It may be that you were only that way temporarily. Even if it was a temporary state, you did it. It will inflict damage on those around you. The emotional hand grenade youset off will not limit its damage to only the cheater. The damage hurts those closest to you.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
