Reading through modern terminology for old behaviors these days entertains me. Although it’s said you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, today’s post-modern culture teaches new terms for old tricks.
I’m amazed at the twisty word games played in folks attempts at evading guilt.
Post-modern language has ways of distorting and twisting language around so that you can’t recognize it any more. The other day I heard the term “transitioning to non-ethical-monogamy“.
I had to read the term several times for it to sink in. This is the new way of expressing someone ‘trying out’ cheating. What makes matters worse, I came across the term on a site claiming to have a readership in the million plus range.
That’s a significant number of people exposed to ways of bending terms to where you can recognize what’s going on. Using such terms turns discussions about infidelity into something else.
You’re not sure what you are talking about. It’s no longer a question of whether they cheated or not
It turns into whether the infidelity was ethical or not. It could also turn into whether the transition is temporary or permanent. Such twisted language makes it harder to communicate rather than easier.
It’s easier asking “Are you cheating?”
Can you see yourself confronting your husband in the midst of your anger saying “Were you transitioning to non-ethical monogamy? You know how I detest non-ethical monogamy.”
The new terminology turns the cheater into a victim who is being harassed for exploring sexual options and finding a new identity.
The post-modern talk leaves you wondering “What just happened?” It takes the sin out of sinful choices and the guilt out of adultery. It hides the cheating behind a wall of words and meanings.
Recovering from the affair requires honesty about what happened including using language that cuts through the post-modern crap.
If you’re looking for a place to talk about affairs in a way that doesn’t get lost in jargon or foggy words, consider joining us at Restored Lifestyle. There you’ll find forums and articles that slice through the words cheaters hide behind.
I also shine the light on the word games and head games being played.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
