Getting your life, thinking, marriage and family back on track is possible.
Getting your life and marriage back on track begins with you believing it is possible.
Depending on how far your thinking and behavior got into hedonistic selfishness, it may take some of you longer than others. The deeper you were into things you shouldn’t have been, the longer it is going to take.
Getting back on track first requires seeing it as possible. When you view your situation as beyond hope or too far gone, you will not have the inner strength and commitment to get back on track.
When you have lost all hope, your spirit is often broken and the relationship shattered. When your morale is gone, you have lost.
Once you see that it is possible to get back on track, you begin having hope. When you see the potential of change, you will start making changes.
Those changes may start off small, but as you continue making them day after day and do so consistently, you will eventually have what it takes to make a commitment to getting back.
For some of you the commitment may be to yourself. Making the commitment to your spouse often sets you up for potential problems. It sounds good, but if and when you slip, it often starts a chain reaction of events.
Once you make a commitment, the likelihood is that your spouse will see changes. They will often view your commitments as ‘just another promise’ or ‘more talk, talk, talk’. They want to see results, they want to see change rather than you just talking about change.
After you commit, and stay with it, after about two to three weeks, your thinking begins clearing up. When your thinking clears, then you’ll see what specific changes need to be made.
A major pitfall many people experience is expecting a ‘clear plan’ laid out before making any commitment.By insisting on having a clear plan, they delay making their commitment.
It doesn’t work well that way. You will need to make the commitment, THEN the plan becomes clear.
This will help you in starting the process of getting your life, your thinking and your marriage back on track.
If you’re looking for some further ways of getting your life back on track, the video, “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery” guides you through this part of your recovery journey.
Best Regards,
Jeff
