One of the questions that some of you ask is whether or not prayer will help in dealing
with the affair. 21 years ago, if you had asked me that question, I would have answered with an unequivocal “Yes!”. These days, the question of “Will prayer help?” is not so easy to answer.
It’s not that I’ve lost faith or have diminished my confidence in prayer. What I’ve seen is that the understanding of prayer has changed.
Part of the reason for this change concerns who or what you are praying to. Although prayer helps you regain strength and focus, there are some areas of caution.
One of these cautions is that of who you are praying to. If your prayers are to some ‘power within’ or sexually oriented deities that emphasize wet, salty spiritual experiences and enlightenment through sex, your prayers may contribute to an affair rather than help overcome an affair.
Prayers are also not about asking for terrible things to happen to the cheater.
Affairs often reveal where your true faith lies. You discover where you actually go to for spiritual strength. When your source of strength is internal or inner focused, the likelihood is that it will take you to greater levels of selfishness.
When your prayers focus on self-gratification, sexual enlightenment and increasing internal powers, your prayers create more problems than they solve. It creates confusion in the sense of whether you are looking to survive the affair or indulge in the affair. Such prayers often activate energies that make surviving the affair more difficult.
Prayers has been found to change energies. For this reason, you want calming and helpful energies rather than stirring up baser passions.
Who you pray to matters. Prayer often brings new focus, energy and hope. Those changes can make things better or worse, depending on Who you are praying to. So the answer to “Will payer help?’ often depends on “Who are you praying to?”
When you are praying, there may be other people praying as well. The lover may be praying, the cheater may be praying. Each of you may have sincerity in your prayers, yet be at cross purposes, and be directed at different deities.
Another issue with prayers is that some of you may slip into pronouncing curses rather than seek direction, hope and strength. Praying curses over people often brings negativity with it.
It’s hard having a loving attitude when you are pronouncing curses over others. Those negative feelings will need to be dealt with, but directing them into curses, is often asking for trouble.
Spirituality is important, yet also needs careful handling.
Best Regards,
Jeff
