Yesterday I mentioned my recent hospital adventures. Although I’ve worked in them, I now do my best in avoiding them.
Although I dislike them, they continue being a real-life classroom for me. There are always new things I learn from the experiences of the medical staff in them.
I’ve learned more practical hard life lessons from hurting situations than from textbooks. The books have their place, but the real life lessons touch lives in a life changing way.
One of the lessons I learned in my recent hospital adventure happened in ICU. Surrounded by monitors and machines, and under the eye of watchful nurses dedicated to saving lives, I met Lisa.
While tending to a family member there, Lisa the nurse turned to us and said “The bed will kill you!” Her works were a sharp contrast to the electronic white noise backdrop from the machines keeping people alive.
Lisa’s blunt statement stunned me for a moment. She later explained that when you’re dealing with life and death issues, the longer you stay in bed, the greater the risk of death. She went on pointing out that she’s seen too many people killed by the bed.
I’d never considered the bed a weapon before. The more I pondered what she told me, the more the truth hit me. The bed does kill you.
When it comes to affairs, what happened in a bed is what breaks your heart. It also kills you again when you shut down and stay in bed rather than take action in dealing with your situation.
With affairs, the bed poses two risks. The affair itself and the danger of shutting down rather than dealing with the affair.
When you are facing the trauma of an affair, the bed is awfully tempting. You want to crawl under the sheets and not come out again. You think it’s a safe place, when in reality, it threatens your life.
No one wants to face the trauma that comes with an affair. It’s not a pleasant experience. You’d rather avoid it if possible. Although you don’t want to work through it, that’s exactly what needs doing.
This is one of the reasons I put together the video, “Overcoming Affair Trauma”. It guides you through that phase of affair recovery you may have been denying or avoiding. The Affair Trauma doesn’t have to stop your life. You can move past it and I’ll show you how in this video.
Best Regards,
Jeff
