Prior to the arrival of hurricane Harvey, I spent the week bouncing between ICU and the waiting room at Clear Lake Medical Center. Dealing with a family member in the hospital has its own set of stressors.
I found sitting in the waiting room quite a classroom. Around you are lessons and instructions if you’re willing to learn.
One of the lessons I learned is that when a family member is hurting or in need, you make choices. In most cases you make choices of doing ‘whatever it takes‘ in caring for your loved one.
I didn’t see anyone who was relieved that their loved one was hurting or dying. There were no celebrations in the waiting room about how anyone ‘got what’s coming to them’.
When you’re faced with losing your spouse, you look at the world differently. The things that used to fill your daily routine suddenly don’t matter. The only thing you care about is your spouse and squeezing out some more time.
Your time priorities change. They change for spouses and families. No one was there trying to sell us vitamins, Amway, new cars or condominiums. The focus of everyone was on their spouses and loved ones.
Even though the TV was on, few people watched it for more than a few minutes. They didn’t care what was on or which news station it was. Their focus was elsewhere.
The lesson was that when you’re about to lose your spouse, those other things don’t matter. Your attention becomes laser focused on your spouse.
When it’s an affair threatening your marriage, is your concern on your marriage? When your marriage relationship is in danger, do you have the same amount of concern?
Are you taking the ‘whatever it takes’ approach when you’re dealing with an affair?
These are tough questions, but this is a tough matter. You find out how important your marriage really is to you during such times as an affair. You find out if you are willing to do what it takes to get a little more time with your spouse.
The downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop” guides you through what you need in recovering from an affair. You can have all the tools, techniques and direction you need in turning your marriage around. Rather than losing your spouse to the lover, you can change how things go.
Best Regards,
Jeff
