Getting Played by the Cheater

While on my honeymoon I was taken in by a street huckster in New Orleans. He bet me $20 that he could tell me where “I got my shoes”. 

I thought to myself, this is going to be easy money. He has no idea what store I purchased my shoes at in Houston. I thought how is this New Orleans local going to know where I got my shoes?

I accepted his bet. Immediately he told me that “You got your shoes on your feet!” At that moment, I knew I’d been had. What made it worse was that I lost face in front of my bride.

It showed me how people use word games where they twist them before your eyes. You assume one meaning and they intend another.

Cheaters tell you that they love you, and that the lover doesn’t mean anything to them and so forth. In your mind, you assume the cheater is telling you the affair is over.

In the cheater’s mind, they told you ‘what you wanted to hear’ so that you don’t view their affair as a threat. By saying it doesn’t mean anything, they give the impression that ‘it’s over’.

The facts are, they’ve invested time, emotions and money into the affair. It already means something to them. They are already invested. An investment means that it meant something to them.

The affair went way beyond ‘window shopping’ long ago.

Even if the affair didn’t have any intended meaning beyond just sex, it’s a threat. The bonding that has already occurred competes with their relationship with you.

The cheater has already put that other relationship ahead of you. You just don’t realize it. You’ve been played. In this case, it was your spouse that played you.

Getting played damages trust. At that moment, whether you realize it or not, you can no longer trust what they’re telling you.

At some level you know that. You just don’t want to admit how much of what they are telling you can’t believe.

There are times its harder accepting that you’ve been played than believing lies they tell you.

This is where the video, “How Can I Trust You Again?” comes in. You can know what’s needed in order to rebuild that broken trust.

You can know clearly why you can’t trust them anymore.

Knowing clearly what part of trust needs repair makes recovery faster and more effective than blindly trying things you hope will work. This is why I you need to order a copy for yourself today.

You don’t need to be played any longer.

When relationship trust is damaged, you are left hurting. That kind of hurt doesn’t go away on its own. The damaged areas need attention. Knowing the specific area needing that kind of attention helps the two of you make significant changes.

Best Regards,

Jeff