How well do you know the cultural heroes and their adulterous ways? In modern society many adulterers are idolized and glamorized.
Willie Nelson sang about how his heroes had always been outlaws. What if your heroes have all been “cheater’s?”
It bothers me when I see a cheater’s face plastered around in public places.It’s even worse when they are held up as heroes and role models.
I wonder if people realize the values they are promoting. They only know his iconic face and not his rock bottom values.
When an adulterer is promoted in public areas, it doesn’t surprise me when adultery runs rampant. When heroes are idealized, what’s also lifted up are their values. The hero is the embodiment of a set of values.
There’s one particularly popular adulterer whose face is promoted widely. I often wonder if those wearing his image know about his philandering ways.
As a young man he grew up with the nickname of ‘fast rooster’ based on how fast he seduced the maids working in the home he grew up in. His made love with them on tables or any place that was convenient.
I use the term ‘seduce’ even though his actions were more about forcing himself on the maids.
As common with many seducers, he treated women like trash after seducing them. His passion quickly soured after gratifying himself.
His animal like ways included his hygiene. At one point, he went six months without bathing. His poor hygiene never slowed down his sexual conquests.
He had what modern language would term a serial family. He had children with a series of women.
When he married, he showed no commitment to his wife or his children. Marriage didn’t slow him down. He walked out on his first wife and cheated extensively on the next one.
His main love was his job. He was so enamored with his job and considered it so important that his marriage and relationships were often ignored.
Like many other job-oriented men, his marriages and children were expendable.
He wasn’t willing to make changes or go to therapy. His job was too important for such matters.
Besides that, he had a sexual addiction. He was well known for his sexual escapades. His sexual addiction was more important than getting help.
If this sounds anything like your situation, your marriage needs immediate help. I know his life is quite extreme, yet many cheating situations, when not addressed spin out of control in wider ways than ever imagined.
In your situation, you have resources like the support community at Restored Lifestyle that can help you and your marriage with affair recovery before things spin out of control.
Your life doesn’t have to spin out of control like Che Guevara’s. You can do something before it gets that bad.
Best Regards,
Jeff
