Having lived a vengeful person for a few years, I learned first hand what ‘re-venge’ means. I know some of you grammer nazis out there may take umbrage at writing it as re-venge, yet that is what it’s about.
When you are looking at revenge, the angry person is seeking vengeance for some offense they experienced.
The vengeful person looks for reasons to repay you for any wrongs done to them. Even when no bad intentions or malice was involved. If they felt like you wronged them, they seek paybacks.
The vengeful person obsesses over inflicting pain. In my case, the offender wanted to make me hurt the way and to the intensity they were hurting.
What made things more challenging was that she sought re-venge for both real and perceived wrongs. She laid in bed at night plotting and planning what she viewed as the right re-venge.
She enjoyed sending nasty letters to churches, individuals and whoever would be shocked by them. They were always sent anonymously so she had some ‘deniability’.
Her options were only limited by whatever evil her mind could imagine. If that wasn’t enough, she’d meet with dark friends who gave her even more devious ideas. She thrived on negative energy.
She had so much negative energy, it even began impacting the ceiling fan in her room and clocks in the house. I wouldn’t have believe these things if I hadn’t seen them myself.
Like a doctor who practices defensive medicine, I found myself making choices in terms of consideration of how she would perceive them.
It required re-thinking how I phrase things along with how I reacted to her provocations. Although I gained some fascinating insights into human behavior, this was not my preferred way of learning such lessons.
Living with a vengeful person left me edgy and leery of her actions. I found myself frequently second guessing things.
If you’re living with a vengeful person, you know what these struggles are like. You also know that with affairs, the danger isn’t over when the affair is over.
If you’re looking at divorce, you also know that the danger isn’t over with them out of the home. In many ways, they’re more dangerous now than when you lived with them.
If you have endured such experiences, you’ll want the special November report on “Infidelity and Losing Your Children” going out to members of the Restored Lifestyle site. Inside, you’ll find out more about the dangers posed by vengeful spouses and what you can do.
The report is going out on the 15th, so you’ll want to join soon.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
