After living with someone for an extended period of time, you learn their ways. This is especially true if you’ve had times where you don’t get along with them.
You learn when they’re lying, when they’re angry and when they are being playful. If you don’t learn those things, you end up getting caught up in endless unnecessary conflicts.
Although you know the tells associated with their lying, others miss them. This is one of those truths that sank in when I was being sued by a family member.
Initially I considered her claims bogus and false. The whole legal matter I viewed as a frivolous law suit. Although I saw it as frivolous, there was one lawyer that didn’t.
He had dollar signs in his eyes and was willing to sell his reputation to the highest bidder. The family member said things happened in a particular way. He took the viewpoint that since “she, being an old woman, said it, it must be so”.
When it came time for depositions, she made some bald faced lies. I saw all the tells. She was blinking her eyes, avoiding eye contact, touching her nose and more.
Although I saw the signals alerting me to her lying, the lawyers didn’t. What she said was taken as gospel truth.
At that moment, I realized going to court is not about finding ‘the truth’ but rather who has the better story. Her lies made for quite a story. In some courtrooms, it’s not who has the facts on their side, but rather who is more believable and persuasive, which gives story tellers an edge.
In a similar manner, if you find yourself in court, don’t count on the cheater telling the truth. Also, the court is not concerned with digging for the truth. They want the most believable story.
This is especially true with court officials who change office with the election winds.
They lied about the affair. What makes you think they wouldn’t lie about your parenting in order to gain custody?
Once a liar starts on their path of lies, they just continue.
In their mind, it’s just another lie. They’ve already shown disregard for the most sacred bond in their life. What makes you assume they won’t lie to a judge or lawyer?
These are questions that you need to consider in affair situations when they progress to the courtroom. They are unpleasant, but necessary when you are in these situations.
This is why I put together the November Special Report on Infidelity and Losing Your Children for members of the Restored Lifestyle community. In it you’ll find out more about the ways you can lose your children even though you weren’t the cheater.
If you’re not a member, you’re invited to join us.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
