In the days before cell phones, my wife’s mother used her telephone as her form of social media. Her favorite form of social media was gossip. She loved finding out the latest gossip on everyone she knew.
If there was anything juicy, she wanted to either hear it or tell it. One day, she discovered through her gossip connections, that her husband was seeing someone else.
She quickly sprang into action. With a few calls, she found out who that someone was along with where they lived. As soon as she had the information she needed, she quickly sprang into action.
She picked my wife up from a church youth meeting and made a bee line to confront the other woman (OW). My wife was to “get in, we’re going somewhere.”
For my wife’s mother, the fact that it was 9:15 on a school night didn’t matter. She was going to show her how ‘it’s done’. All the way there my wife heard about how ‘bad’ her dad was in doing what he did and how terrible this other woman was.
My wife cringed as her mother began going into the details of the sexual activity that went on. She didn’t want to hear that about either of her parents.
My wife sat in the car when they arrived at the address. Her mother stormed up the walkway and began pounding loudly on the door. When the OW arrived, she proceeded telling her off and managed using every derogatory term her mind came up with.
Although my wife was young when the incident happened, it continues haunting her memories of her parents. That ugly episode stains her recollection of her growing up years.
The problem with some of those bad memories is that they intrude when they want to. If you’re like my wife, the memories come unannounced.
Affairs bring traumatic memories into your life. Parents forget that what they do and say make an impression on their children. All the stories about how ‘bad’ someone is or the sexual things they did.
Hearing about affair or being dragged into affair confrontations isn’t fair to your children. It brings them unwillingly into an adult world of ugliness.
Such ugliness forces them to view parents in ways they don’t want to. It forces them into a world of ugly realities before they are ready to handle them.
That ugliness leaves vivid memories and recollections. Such episodes are traumatic for children and continue stalking them as an adult.
Years later, recollection of those events come back into your mind. Try as you will to push them out, they keep returning, like an unwanted guest.
If you’re struggling with similar experiences or other traumas associated with an affair, there’s hope. In my video on “Overcoming Affair Trauma”, I share ways of moving past those bad memories and episodes in your life. Your mind and reactions don’t have to stay stuck in what happened.
When you download the video, you’ll be taking the first steps toward freeing yourself from memories that linger like a bad taste in your mouth. Even the sensations associated with those memories can become a thing of the past.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
