The selfishness of affairs often blinds those afflicted with it from seeing how their actions damage those around them. The infidels often only consider their pain and discomfort. They do not see or understand the suffering of others. Although they pay lip service to such suffering, it is only acknowledged when it is similar to their own.
Sure they want to comfort those in pain as when a child falls of their bicycle, yet they do not grasp the shame and embarrassment of a parent who is an adulterer/adulteress. Since they are struggling to justify their own actions, they do not see the shame their children endure related to their selfishness. They do not comprehend how hard it is for children to honestly admit what is going on in the home. They do not see how others at school, in the community and at church shun their child due in part to the infidelity. They avoid such children out of a fear, that like germs, the infidelity may spread and infect their own families. So the child is treated like an outcast, yet they can not talk to their parent about it because their parent refuses to come to grips with what is going on themselves. The whole situation is tragic.
The stain of the adultery often spreads across the generations. It is not a one-generation or one-person sin. It shames the family as a whole. The family often tries to hide the events, yet like the smell of a garbage dump, it invades their lives and reminds them of what happened on a frequent basis.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
