You may wonder what does Albert Einstein have to do with affairs? The answer to your question may surprise you. One of his theories dealt with the topic of relativity. This is not the forum to elaborate on his theory, so I will save you from a boring explanation. What you do need to understand about Einstein’s theory of relativity is that many cheater have embraced the term ‘relative’. Although the scientific theory dealt with how time becomes relative related to celestial phenomena. Cheaters have bastardized the term ‘relative’ and have selfishly used it as part of their justification of their affairs. For them, just about everything is ‘relative’. This is a misuse of Einstein’s theory. They may refer to the theory to sound smart with comments like “Haven’t you heard of the theory of relativity?” but such references only show their naivete of the theory. They are just acting like an ass who thinks they know something.
When your spouse says that you and they just have different ideas of “truth”, you have just encountered relativity. The cheater often uses the idea of relative truth. What is true for you is deemed as not necessarily true for them. They may be living according to another truth. For them the affair is about “love” and “self-fulfillment.” They see those things as worthy and noble. From your viewpoint, the cheater is destroying your family and being selfish. Although the ploy of relative truth is often used to excuse what was done and ease their conscience, the reality is that the home has been wrecked. A family has been destroyed. There is nothing ‘relative’ about that.
When the theory of relativity really kicks in, they will begin saying that the lover’s family is just as important as your family. The value of the lover’s time is given equal if not superior value to the time they spend with you. When this happens, they have ‘drank the kool-aid’ and are now dealing with the reality that everyone, including the lover, your children and you are all treated like dirt and exists on the same level playing field. Everyone loses. Sure, such a situation may be ‘fair’, but it is not right, nor is it the way to make a marriage work. When you promise to love them above all others, such promises mean something. That is a promise that the two of you built a life and a family on. Relativity does nothing more than make everyone equals where all parties loose. Going down the road of relative truth is a loosing game. When truth becomes relative, everyone loses.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
