There are times when knowing the truth brings awkward discomfort into my life. I was reminded of that when my school records and report cards from elementary school recently surfaced.
I falsely assumed I had been a good student with decent grades during those years. Looking at those old report cards from A. B. Freeman Elementary School forced me to face the truth.
My conduct was not stellar, neither were my grades in math and a few other subjects stellar. Moments I thought I had blocked out when forced to stand with my nose in a circle drawn on the chalkboard came back.
Feelings of struggling adequacy suddenly flashed through me on seeing my grades. I recalled moments of hiding my grades from my better performing peers.
If a parent brought in their child with such marks and behavior to may office, I would at least express my concerns.
Talk about awkward discomfort. Now I am reluctantly forced to find ways of integrating the real truth back into my life.
I had not recalled all the unpleasant details in years, and now I am face to face with them. I have the unpleasant task of re-integrating those unpleasant truths into my life.
Like an unwanted stray, it keeps following me around. The problem is I can’t deny it, since that’s what I did.
There are times in going through affair recovery, you’ll be facing those moments of awkward discomfort as well. Photos, recordings and documentation shine the light of truth.
When the light of truth shines, you’ll squirm in discomfort. Although you want to run from it, admit it, accept it and learn from it. Running and hiding from it has not helped you or anyone around you.
You want your spouse to be truthful, which means you’ve got to be truthful with yourself as well. Truth is not always comforting and smooth, but it’s what helps you grow.
During those times, it helps talking with others. It’s also a time you need that special feeling of acceptance you find with your spouse that you’re not sure is still there.
You need those people who know those unpleasant truths and still love you. You need support and encouragement.
When you’re going through affair recovery, you also need the assurance that you’re not alone. This is where the support community at Restored Lifestyle comes in. There you can share your story, with all the ugly warts and still be accepted.
You’ll also have access to the resources and helps necessary for your recovery.
Best Regards,
Jeff
