The old adage, “Money Talks” is understood in many areas. Money also talks in relationships. Although in marriage, there are pledges of fealty and loyalty, there are some partners who are willing to play the turncoat and leave the relationship when the money is better somewhere else. Although ‘true love’ and commitment are important to relationships, there are some who talk about true love, yet are only waiting until a better offer comes around. The leaving of a relationship does not always occur based on who has the bigger purse or wallet, yet when the partners are not happy with the relationship, money is a strong motivator.
Even when the parties use a lot of Bible talk in terms of praying about ‘God’s will’ regarding staying with their spouse, when the money is right, they have been known to leave as well. I recall an old mentor who told me that “It’s amazing how when you offer someone more money, that what is referred to as ‘God’s will’ suddenly changes”. Although he was addressing how pastors will often leave one church for another, his comment also has application for marriages as well.
The bottom lines is that when your spouse’s needs are not being met, there is an increased danger that money will talk. Another old friend told me of a German proverb that translates into English as “Where no money is, love flies out the window”. Although we do not like to associate money and love, with some people there is a connection. In terms of understanding affairs, it is important to recognize this connection and the danger it poses.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
