A husband approached me wanting answers to his situation. He felt torn in many ways about how to handle the matter.
His wife had affairs years before and only recently came clean and asked for forgiveness. Old affairs, like old leftovers, have a stench about them.
Sure, the affair is long over and the straying spouse is still with you, although what happened leaves you surrounded by questions and emotions. You are relieved, yet confused about what to believe about your relationship with them.
You know what you see and experience, yet you start wondering if you can trust your own sensations. You wonder if you lived a lie for years.
You also wonder if you can trust your spouse’s declarations of love. They say they love you, but with what happened, you have some doubts.
Your spouse may feel relieved about finally coming clean. While they feel relieved, now you’re the one who’s hurting. Each of you looks at the admission of the affair from very different perspectives.
The husband wanted to know how to handle his wife asking for forgiveness. He’s torn. He wants to forgive her, and at the same time is still processing his pain and is not ready to forgive.
It’s good that she admitted to the affair and asked for forgiveness. It’s not good that she waited so long before doing it.
Her delay in asking forgiveness didn’t put off any pain. If anything, it increased the burden and pain her husband is experiencing.
It’s understandable to be hurt and angry. However, forgiveness is a process and it takes time. It won’t happen all at once.
The husband needs to take things slow and let his emotions flow naturally. He has to accept how he feels without rushing the process of forgiving her.
Should he forgive before he’s ready to, or shut the door on what happened like it never occurred? If he’d watched the video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear Down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks” he’d have direction and answers in handling his situation.
You can find directions and answers to your forgiveness-related questions with this video as well. Click and download your copy today, so that the two of you can know how to handle your situation.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
