The past couple of days, I’ve pointed out how impaired brain chemicals impact affairs and dealing with them. When your brain isn’t working right, it changes what you’re dealing with.
If you’re hoping for recovery from the affair while fixing the wrong problem, it’ll only make things worse. The root problem of the affair will remain unaddressed and you’ll feel discouraged, if not hopeless.
When brain chemicals are impaired, it changes how you think and your ability to think. You may have the facts in your brain, but the information isn’t being processed correctly.
You may wonder how the cheater can know something is wrong and still do it anyway. When their brain isn’t working right may explain it.
It could be that they are so determined to have an affair that they ignore everything they know.
You may also want to consider the possibility that some of the brain chemicals aren’t working like they should. When the brain chemical dopamine is impaired, it interferes with your ability to think.
You may know some data, yet that information is not passed on to other parts of your brain. Dopamine is critical in your ability to maintain attention and concentrate.
You may want to think, yet when your dopamine is messed up, it becomes a struggle. Messed up dopamine also changes your mood and what you do to make you feel good.
Dopamine is a major influence involved with affairs. When something impacts your ability to concentrate, process information and change your mood, its worth taking note of.
Dopamine is also one of the brain chemicals impaired by prolonged use of aspartame according to researchers in Africa. This means that the sugar free products you’ve been consuming may have left some hidden damage in your brain.
You may not see this kind of damage until you are in the high stress situation that come with an affair. Although there may have been impairment, the good news is that much of your brain function can recover when you know what you are dealing with.
This means that there may be a hidden danger in your pantry that weakened attention and concentration in a way that made the affair possible in the first place. They may have known better, yet not been able to act on their knowledge.
This is why I make it a point of including brain hacks in the Affair Recovery Workshop in helping you recover. In terms of recovering from the affair, it’s not just about ending the affair, its about changing the thinking and behavior behind the affair as well.
Dealing with impaired brain functioning requires more than marriage weekends and forgiveness. You need some changes in diet, behavior and your marriage relationship.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
