As one of my family members was walking through the Las Vegas airport, he overheard a man loudly defensively proclaiming over his phone “I don’t know whose clothes those are in the bedroom!” Unless he was talking about his children, his statement doesn’t bode well.
Given the defensive nature of his statement, the most likely scenario is one involving an affair. When I hear about these situations I still cringe. I’m not sure whether the wife would be foolish to believe what he’s telling her or if he foolishly believes she’ll fall for his proclamation.
Finding someone else’s clothes in the bedroom signals disrespect and contempt for their spouse and their marriage bed. It tells your spouse that there’s nothing special or sacred about your bedroom. Those are messages you don’t want to send to your spouse.
If he’s telling the truth, there’s a serious memory issue going on. When someone doesn’t know who’s getting undressed in their bedroom, there’s either a nameless prostitute or a serious mental lapse happening.
There’s the possibility that he was drugged or passed out, yet the loud defensive proclamation makes that unlikely. Had he used a bewildered tone of voice when saying “I don’t know whose clothes those are in the bedroom”, it would be more believable.
Perhaps it was one of those “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas” type of scenarios. I also wonder if his spouse even knew he was in Las Vegas.
Whatever the back story behind the incident, having strange undergarments in your bedroom is a loud signal that your marriage needs help. You can’t continue life as normal after finding strange underwear in your bedroom.
If your marriage is like the one above, action is needed sooner rather than later. The longer you delay, the more problematic things will become.
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When strange clothes start showing up in your bedroom, it’s not something you can blame on the housekeepers.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
