I hope your Christmas celebration went well. Holidays bring out both the best and the worst in people. The Christmas holidays are known for extreme highs and lows in terms of human behavior.
With this in mind, I recall a thought provoking article in the Huffington Post. It was my introduction to a trend called ‘half-night stands’. The ‘half-night stand’ is when a person hooks up for the encounter and then leaves, going home to their own bed.
The term ‘half-night stand’ is used in order to distinguish it from one night stands. It seems that one night stands have awkward moments when you wake up and have to face the person you slept with the next morning. The author of the article pointed out that in modern society we live in a ‘swipe culture’ where you hook up then move on to the next sexual encounter.
I see the half-night stand as a watering down and de-stigmatizing sleeping around. When you have major news organizations promoting and presenting such ideas, its’ little wonder that affairs are so widespread.
In today’s politically correct culture, many terms are watered down or de-stigmatized in order to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings. When not watered down, the new word for the term is so mangled, you don’t recognize what they’re talking about.
One example is using the term ‘serial non-monogamy’ for sleeping around. The new term is intentionally technical sounding to remove any emotional or moral baggage.
I still like having honest names for behaviors. There are some behaviors that need a stigma associated with them.
Somehow when you have a nice sounding title you can attach to an aberrant behavior, it makes it acceptable and explainable. It also pushes young people out the door by making such behavior sound trendy.
Since some hipsters follow what seems cool just for the sake of following the crowd, this new trend of ‘half-night stands’ is dangerous to your marriage on multiple levels. The term does nothing more than put affairs in new packaging that makes it sound smooth and less offensive.
Cheaters manufacture reasons to cheat. I find that they cheat, and then they find a reason for it afterwards, rather than have a reason, followed by the cheating.
A good way to start the new year is by confronting the affair and calling things what they really are. You can start your affair recovery with the Affair Recovery Workshop.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
