During the times I was physically ill as a child, I always found comfort in my mother softly telling me “I wish we knew what’s wrong with you.” As I grew older, I was able to tell them when things were wrong and what my symptoms were.
From the sincerity of her calming voice, I knew she meant what she said. As a mother, I believe that she would do her upmost to remedy any illness I experienced. When I felt ill she knew that something wasn’t right, even when I couldn’t put it into words beyond “My tummy hurts” or something of that sort.
There were times I was taken to the physician who let her know what was wrong with me based on his observations and findings. Once she knew what was wrong, she had a plan to follow in dealing with it.
With most illnesses, once you know what’s wrong, you can start developing a plan for dealing with it. This also applies to infidelity.
You know that the betrayer cheated. When it comes to understanding the cause of what they did, you’ve already made some guesses. Your guesses are based on the information you have about the affair and the betrayer.
What I want to make you aware of is that the affair started coming together in their head. Yes, whatever desire they had, the plan for affair started being hatched in their head.
The involvement of their brain included the planning, execution and cover-up. Their brain has been rewired by the affair. What happened created new pathways in their brain.
This means that when it comes time for addressing what’s wrong with them, the brain is one part you must deal with in order to heal the root issues behind the affair.
You may have thought the problem was in their pants, when it was really in their brain.
Yes, their brain is something needing investigating. Consider that the brain plays a major role in sexual issues. Some researchers claim that the brain is the largest sex organ due the role it plays.
If your approach only deals with symptoms of the affair, you’re leaving the situation unresolved and unfinished. The betrayer may not even be fully aware of what’s wrong with them or how the changes happened.
Now you have a clearer idea of “What’s wrong with the betrayer.” You now know where the root issues lie.
When you don’t deal with the problem at the root level, it’s only going to be a matter of time before problems arise again. Instead of thinking that removing the symptom has fixed the problem, consider going to the root cause and addressing it at that level.
When it comes time for dealing with those changes in their brain and knowing ways of hacking into it, the answers are not so plentiful, until now. I recently decided on releasing the report on understanding and using brain hacks in recovering from the affair.
In my special report that I call the “Brain Hack Pack”, I address how affairs change brains and hacks you can use in accessing and changing their brain and its functioning. Purchase your copy today and within minutes you can start undoing the thinking that led to the affair in the first place.
You now have a better idea of what’s wrong with your spouse. Now that you know that, what are you going to do with that information?
Hopefully, you’ll take action and start changing things today. You can wait until tomorrow, yet each day the changes produced by the affair remain, the stronger they become. This means that they get harder and harder to remove when you ignore them.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
