When your spouse has an affair catching you unawares, you want to know what caused it and more. In your search for answers you entertain thoughts that ‘mental illness’ is somehow involved.
Blaming the affair on mental illness gives you something to blame things on. Even though you may have not seen any such issues before in their life, in your search for answers, you consider it possible.
While searching for answers, you consider all kinds of explanations for what happened. A problem has fallen into your lap, like a hand grenade, and you want answers.
From the number of questions I receive each month on the mental health possibly being the driving force behind the affair, this is a question many of you ask.
Although the number of affairs directly connected to mental health issues is small, the affair does change the way their brain works.
The affair creates new connections in their brain, which changes the way it processes information. Although brain changes doesn’t automatically mean mental illness, it does mean that their brain is more involved than you thought it was previously.
The changes in the brain start out small, but grow in size and complexity. The longer an affair lasts or the more the number of affairs, the greater the changes in their brain. The stronger the connections grow, the greater the challenges ahead of you.
If I asked you whether the AP (Affair Partner) in the flesh or the AP in their head poses the greater threat, how would you answer. Have you considered that the one in their head never grows old, never disappoints them or lets them down?
Even when you cut them off from the AP in the flesh, the one in their head, along with the changes made in their brain remains a threat to your marriage. As long as it takes up residence in their head, it remains a problem. You’re dealing with the “Affair Brain” rather than your spouses old brain.
This helps you understand some of the changes you’ve seen in their behavior and things they’ve said.
The AP in their head is your greatest long-term threat. It moves wherever the two of you move. It haunts their head in your bedroom and their dreams at night.
Dealing with those changes in the betrayers brain has been elusive for many until now. In the new report I’ve put together based on scientific presentations and research shows you how affairs change their brain along with brain hacks you can use in dealing with those changes.
The report is called the “Brain Hack Pack“. It contains the special reports I shared with a members only site and now its available for you to purchase. The pack contains a report on how affairs hack the brain and another on using brain hacks in dealing with your spouse.
Now you can have the tools you need in getting their attention and short-circuiting the power of the AP in their head. This means you no longer have to just suffer through this part of affair recovery, just hoping and praying it diminishes and goes away on its own.
The report gives you tools for healing the unwanted changes. They help you undo the damage done to your spouse’s brain from the affair. There are things you can do that pull the plug on the power the AP has on your spouse’s thinking.
The more you understand about how the changes happened, and what they are, the better you’ll be able to shut them down.
You no longer have to feel like the AP is there in bed with you and your spouse. The less power they have in the betrayers brain, the less power they will have over your life.
Start making the changes you want today by ordering your copy of the “Brain Hack Pack“.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
