In going through the latest news items related to cheating. Among the items was a news expose focused on a financial planning personality who disapproves of employees sleeping around.
The news expose was typical of the products of targeted investigative media types. It consisted of secret recordings, allegations and threatened law suits.
What the media reporter misses is a big part of the story as well. They focused on the ‘unfairness’ Dave Ramsey of discouraging sleeping around. In focusing on the unfairness, they missed something bigger.
The media went for the sensational rather than the giant nugget of truth in front of them.
The bigger item is considering the link between promiscuous sexuality and financial success. He saw that promiscuous sex is linked with financial well-being. He saw that good morals have positive financial implications and that bad morals have negative financial impact.
What if the financial planner is actually onto something?
Since he has instituted that policy, there is a reason for it. He’s taking a bold stance for some reason. He sees having a solid marriage and staying loyal to your spouse as an important part of financial planning.
You know, there have been an increasing number of reports about financial infidelity that precedes sexual infidelity.
Does this imply that sleeping around brings financial problems? I don’t know if that is the case. What I do know from my research days is that people who are risk-takers are more prone to sketchy behavior.
This could explain why the press is filled with articles concerning financial infidelity and the seriousness of the problem. Instead of identifying marital cheating as a concern worthy of new items, they choose instead to focus on financial cheating.
In today’s press financial cheating is more serious than physical cheating. On reading the investigative report, I began wondering if those marriages where financial cheating is problematic also are at risk for sexual cheating as well.
If they aren’t going to be loyal with their pocket books, what makes you think they’ll be loyal in other areas? At the root of both is selfish interests.
The problem is that if you told the public that their marital fidelity and financial fidelity are cousins, many wouldn’t want to hear that. They only want to hear what will make them money instead of any possible limitation on what they can or can’t do.
Humans fight limitations, even when those limits protect them from future disasters. The limits that come with fidelity are beneficial.
This also means that having a strong marriage is in your best interest. A healthy marriage also has many secondary benefits.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
