After writing a post concerning the danger of workplace affairs, a troubling concern kept running through my mind. That troubling thought concerned ‘mom shaming‘.
I understand that single mothers have unique vulnerabilities. I also know that some women are so accustomed to being on the prowl for hook-ups that they disregard the marital status of their victims. Taken together, the question arises as to whether mom shaming is appropriate.
In my mind there is a time and place for slut shaming. This includes both male and female versions of this creature. Sleeping around is never okay for married spouses. When the slut is a mother or father, it doesn’t make things okay.
One of the sneaky ways some spouses skirt this issue is by sleeping with their exes, even though they are married to you. In my mind, it’s still an affair, even when it’s with the ex.
When the person sleeping around is a mom, it puts a unnatural twist on everything. I know they have needs and vulnerabilities, but using them to poach your husband is unacceptable.
Using the parent role as a way of hooking up with people at little league games, church functions or PTA meetings is distasteful. I know that in some cases, the person they hook-up with doesn’t reveal their marital status.
Although the marital status is not discussed, the fact that they hooked-up with a fellow parent should have sent off some warning signals. They know their AP has kids. That should have alerted them to the possibility that they’re married.
The likelihood that they’re meeting a married spouse is high in those circumstances. Knowing that the likelihood of meeting someone for an affair is married makes their motives suspect. It’s hard not to mom shame when the kids are used as tools in finding a ready-made husband or wife for their family. All that’s required is replacing you.
Whatever the motive, such relationships are a threat to your marriage. If you’re dealing with such a situation, now is the time for downloading the Affair Recovery Workshop. The workshop deals with handling the conflicts, understanding the dynamics and ways of making your relationship better.
Rather than being blindsided by single parents ready to poach your spouse, download the workshop and protect yourself and your marriage.
Keeping It Real
Jeff
