One of the times I feel like celebrating is when someone I’m working with ‘gets it’. At that moment, the light goes off in their head and a look comes over their face. They understand the concept that we’ve been trying to explain and they can see how it applies to their situation. It’s a great feeling when you know that you’ve helped someone else learn something new.
It’s also satisfying to see someone take what they’ve learned and run with it. When they start putting what they’ve learned into practice’
That look lets me know that they connected the dots and gained insight. Although I can’t open bottles of champagne and toast their accomplishment, it doesn’t diminish what happened.
On reading a blog, I saw that a spouse ‘got it’. They also managed to put their insight in simple terms.
They said, “One can come up with hundreds of excuses for infidelity in marriage, but the person having an affair always has the choice to do or not to do.”
They cut through the excuses with what they realized. Rather than let depression, drug abuse, sexual addiction, early life incidents, or moments of weakness blind them, they saw the plain and simple truth about choice.
It’s not always easy to see things so clearly. Sometimes we need help to get there. But when we do, it’s worth celebrating.
The moment you realize this, you see things in a different light. You realize that the affair was a series of choices, each a little worse than the previous one.
The excuses are given to take away the pain that comes with realizing you made a bad choice or to distract you. Even when they believe their excuse, a choice was made.
Choices led to the affair and choices will lead you out of the affair mess. The challenge is understanding what those choices are. At times, the choices aren’t so easily identified.
When you identify and clarify a choice, it makes decision-making easier. A big part of affair recovery is identifying the choices. This is where the Affair Recovery Workshop comes in. In the downloadable workshop, each session provides new insight and clarity on what’s needed.
There are times when you miss opportunities and the choices with them largely due to not knowing what to look for. The workshop guides you in what to look for and do in the different stages of affair recovery.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
