There are times that the only time you have your spouse’s full attention is when you are in crisis. Gaining attention through crisis is not a healthy way to gain their attention, but unfortunately, it works. There may be times that you or your spouse is so desperate for attention, that things like extreme flirting or even an affair seem to be the only way to ‘wake them up’. In such cases, the problems in the marriage existed long before the affair. The affair in such cases is not your biggest problem.
In such cases, you need to deal with the spouse who is feeling neglected. A spouse who feels neglected will find a way to get your attention. If you do not give your attention willingly, they will find a way to gain it in a forcible manner. A few hours spent talking and being with your spouse is one of the best investments of your time. Rather than spending hours crying over, “Why didn’t I see it earlier?”–Take a look and take action now.
The need for attention is a problem that can be taken care of without medication if taken care of early enough.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
