In reviewing the various types of affairs and types of affairs, I realized that one group that I neglected mentioning were the ‘litigious people and affairs’. Since I don’t like dealing with this population, I suspect my neglect of them may reflect some of my own issues with them.
It’s my own Freudian slip in leaving them out.
Litigious people live by the motto, “If you don’t like someone, sue them!” They have learned how to use the legal system as a club to hammer those who upset them, get in their way, make them feel uncomfortable or just plain jealousy.
(Note: They also have social media cousins who use social sites to castigate, name call and provoke. They are into character assassination and inflicting pain.)
They (litigious affair people) are often wealthy or have access to money. They have learned how to use the legal system as a way to make a living.
That doesn’t mean that they’re all lawyers. Many are professional victims who are on the lookout for someone and some reason to sue.
When it comes to affairs, the litigious types use affairs as their reason to sue. This is very different than those who use litigation to balance things out after an affair.
With the litigious, the affair is more like the set-up for the real action of the law suit. They know ways of using litigation to their advantage and profit.
The litigious people can be either the cheater, the lover or even the lover’s spouse. The affair is used as an excuse to sue.
It’s in the lawsuit that they go after what they wanted all along. In some cases, the lawsuit is a way out of a marriage.
For some it is a way to get access to someone else’s bank account. For others, it’sa way of punishing a wayward spouse and regaining power in their marriage.
The litigious go for the money. They may find themselves suing physicians, counselors or those involved in the affair, depending on who has the deepest pockets.
With them, it’s not about truth or what is right, it is about finding a reason for a lawsuit. As unscrupulous as it sounds, some lovers are used as bait to set up as a mark.
“It’s not about love or revenge, it’s business”.
The affair provides an excuse. Since most lawsuits are settled out of court, the whole affair ends up being a shake down. For them, the shake down is the real action, not the affair.
When the affair starts too easily or weird situations arise. When there are recordings, photos or film of compromising situations, you are likely dealing with a litigious person.
With them, all that matters is whether it looks like an affair. Even when no affair happened, they may end up suing, just to embarrass their target and squeeze some monies out of them.
If an affair happens, the sooner you start recovery from an affair the better. The longer things go on, the greater the risk of litigation with these people.
The downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop” is your help. It guides you in recovering from the affair and rebuilding your marriage. The only way you’ll make it through such litigation is when the two of you are working together. The sooner you heal, the better your chances.
Best Regards,
Jeff
